Either you are just fun for now or she wants to change you. Thank you, Liz, for your very kind words and encouragement. Doctors want to be with their families and attend events but because of work they just can't. I don't mean to be rude, but she's not gonna give up her "nonsense". Since moving and starting residency, he has done a complete - no resemblance to the man I fell in love with. We raised 2 wonderful children who are now happy and successful adults. Would she be okay with never being married in the temple. After skimming a lot of these comments it seems like many people have found that the most effective way of coping with their relationship with a doctor is to have low expectations or acknowledge that they will always be second. That one I haven't asked him about yet though since I feel like it would be a little presumptuous and might seem like I'm rushing things commitment-wise.
I'm blessed that he is well and doing so well in school. I am a happily married mono-faith guy who has no testimony of dusted base boards. Can I add to this extremely old thread.
But our marriage is strong, and our children are good people. It's why TBMs are so bugged by people that leave the church. So it is going to be over anyway. Thought the girl and I had a future, and we did, just not with each other I'll bet there are hundreds of boyfriend converts out there. So marrying a doctor might be ideal for me. Nothing fixed that issue in me as fast as being almost inseparably bound to a woman that pushed back and kicked screaming against the pricks every time I wanted to make some sort of spiritual effort. I married a non-member over 20 years ago. You knew exactly what you signed up for when you married a doctor. He has let me be a stay-at-home mother while trying to launch my own business and has offered love and support every step of the way. There's a picture of the magic rock he found while digging a neighbor's well.
The woman's role is to grow up, marry a worthy priesthood holder, and have a lot of kids. I learned, growing up, that very principle, that you HAD to marry a member or your marriage was doomed. I understand in some measure of the pressure on the provider, but this profession was their choice. My husband is a medical student, so I have a few years until I'm a "doctor's wife. So now I am here and I have made a go of it for a year, found a new job, made new friends, tried to grow to like a culture that is foreign to me. The system has broken him down and rebuilt him as someone, I fear, I won't be able to respect or feel connected to. I am giving him all of those things. That ended in OP should do the most honest thing possible. Wonderful memories made for both of us. I really fell that its time for me to move on.