Daniel Bergner, a journalist and contributing editor to the New York Times Magazine , knows what women want--and it's not monogamy. His new book, which chronicles his "adventures in the science of female desire," has made quite a splash for apparently exploding the myth that female sexual desire is any less ravenous than male sexual desire. The book, What Do Women Want , is based on a article, which received a lot of buzz for detailing, among other things, that women get turned on when they watch monkeys having sex and gay men having sex, a pattern of arousal not seen in otherwise lusty heterosexual men. That women can be turned on by such a variety of sexual scenes indicates, Bergner argues, how truly libidinous they are. This apparently puts the lie to our socially manufactured assumption that women are inherently more sexually restrained than men--and therefore better suited to monogamy. Detailing the results of a study about sexual arousal, Bergner says : "No matter what their self-proclaimed sexual orientation, [women] showed, on the whole, strong and swift genital arousal when the screen offered men with men, women with women and women with men. They responded objectively much more to the exercising woman than to the strolling man, and their blood flow rose quickly--and markedly, though to a lesser degree than during all the human scenes except the footage of the ambling, strapping man--as they watched the apes. Far from being more sexually modest and restrained than the male libido, the female sex drive is "omnivorous" and "at base, nothing if not animal" writes Bergner.


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Of course, there is a lot of work to do. This is the age of empowerment of women. And you cannot intimidate them anymore because women will not be silenced.
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Male desire is a familiar story. We scarcely bat an eyelash at its power or insistence. In , as experts weighed the moral and medical implications of the first female libido drug , I found myself unsatisfied with the myths of excess and deficit on offer, and set out to understand how women themselves perceive and experience their passions.
Are there things you've had to compromise on to mutually make it work. I thought I could do it, but the isolation, loneliness, and depression are much worse than I expected. I feel pretty awful about that whole thing. I've been doing it wrong. I will keep reading, but it looks like most of the stuff about racism and polygamy has been "adequately" explained away by updates to LDS. But I'm trying to determine how much of that behavior is truly down to his profession, and how much of it is him not being very into me or just selfish and unwilling to compromise even if that selfishness is a byproduct of his residency, and not how he would be in other circumstances. Life is a journey and going through it with a true partner, and a mutual respect for curiosity, is so far greatly rewarding. Don't wait for it to eventually fall apart or hope that she will change.