Read the First Chapter. The in-your-face polemic of ''Straight, No Chaser'' will certainly anger African-American readers uncomfortable with the public airing of what is generally only whispered about within the family; it also will probably earn Nelson the dubious reputation of black male-basher, a category reserved for the likes of Ntozake Shange, Alice Walker, Terry McMillan and Gloria Naylor, among others. There are no sacred cows here, however, and revered black women leaders and role models, including Queen Mother Moore and Maya Angelou, come in for a cold-eyed look as well. Not since Michele Wallace's ''Black Macho and the Myth of the Superwoman'' has there been a book so unrelenting in its ''truth-telling'' about the bankruptcy of black leadership, the crisis in black male-female relations and the patriarchal underpinnings of black nationalism. But Nelson, the author previously of ''Volunteer Slavery,'' a memoir of her years as a reporter at The Washington Post, always places her observations about the African-American community -- about sexism and violence against women which she experienced as a wife at 32 , about the alienation of fatherless children, female and male, and about the growing number of households maintained by poor women -- within the broader context of the legacy of slavery. The United States, she asserts, is a profoundly racist and sexist country, one that ''devalues all women and values women of color least of all. Her answer is in part that one impact of racism on black men is their oppression of black women because of both their race and their sex, an impact that is heightened by the stereotype of the matriarchal emasculator that was perpetuated by the Moynihan report on the black family. The need to restore manhood in a culture that since slavery has emasculated black men, Nelson says, leads to the uncritical embrace of patriarchy by some women as well as men.
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View research View latest news Sign up for updates. Kinsey's findings regarding the sexual behavior of black women were compared with data from a more recent study of sexual socialization and experiences among women in Los Angeles County, Ca. The study examined responses from two groups of college-educated black women, ages 18 to 36, women from the original Kinsey sample and 64 women from the new sample. Log-linear analyses were used to control for differences between the samples on age and marital status. Comparisons were conducted in the areas of childhood family characteristics; sexual socialization and education; sexual behavior in childhood, adolescence, and adulthood; contraceptive practices; and child sexual abuse. Results reflected changes that have taken place in society and in patterns of sexual behavior. Differences in sexual socialization pointed to the increased role of the media and the schools and to more relaxed attitudes about nudity in the home. Shifts in sexual behavior were particularly dramatic.
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Needless to say, my life is a little bit crazy. By all means, I encourage you to try having those discussions and to make a mental note of when you would choose to walk away instead. But when my oldest daughter hit 12, the lessons started to have one major theme: This is what girls are told should be their primary goal. If yes, do you promise to not proselytize to me and let me drink a simple cup of coffee in my own home. If we do, I will be back to share my experiences.
