A year would have been just fine. He is my soul mate and we love each other very much. A straight-laced, returned sister missionary, raised in the cult, and in family of similarly entrenched cult members, will not likely remain happy with a non-member. And your future kids will be taught that you are the reason they don't have an "eternal" family.
Joanna has written a good answer here. It's definitely not an easy life. Besides the obvious brain damage that you will be made to suffer your entire married life, there are future kids to think about. There are many great and wonderful people in the church, and the real evil about the church is that it harms those great and wonderful people. She wants the eternal temple marriage and you will be her long term project TL;DR I considered ending my marriage of Save yourself pain by getting out before it gets harder. Then she can have a chance to actually be the individual she is, and they can have an adult conversation about their future and whether or not they have one. There have been times in the last three years that we have had to live paycheck to paycheck so the idea of a rich doctor is antiquated in most cases. Anyways, good luck, I hope it works out. Have those candid conversations with HIM, ponder, and listen closely for the guidance of the Holy Ghost.
There's a reason so many Utahns are on anti depressants and anti anxiety meds. But you can't make her think about the numerous facts that disprove Mormonism. How many chances will a girl have to find such a wonderful husband candidate. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent the position of the Church. I'm surprised this thread is still getting replies. We'll see how long till last I have my business degree and work in a male Dominated environment so I have choices. All these post confirming how doctors cheat all the time on their spouse kills me and my hope in a future with him. If she expresses interest in converting, be prepared to talk about your beliefs, and help her find ways to learn about and follow them. We are not judged only for what we do but why we do it. There's a different kind of balance, but that doesn't mean that there's no balance.
It certainly isn't easy. It sounds like you HAVE done your best in the past. Having to be on your own on holidays is really difficult, and no one understands that "isn't your husband here. All I can do is Trust in God.